Ignorance Is Bliss Under Certain Circumstances In Building Up Relationship!

The common belief that you should know everything about your date before entering into a relationship is a myth. Swiss psychologists are of opinion that not knowing and liking the partner is a better than knowing and not liking the partner.

Don't try to explore his personal habits, friends circle, past affairs and failures which do not have any impact on your present relationship. Accept him as he is at the face value without probing into unrelated aspects like whether he smokes,drinks, flirts with his personal assistant at office, etc. Certain times brutal honesty really kills the live-in relationship.

In the modern era, a practical working relationship, marriage-without-being-married, is catching up fast amongst the young couples. No doubt he is not just a roommate but a soul-mate. What is more relevant is your partner's likes and dislikes, personality traits, attitude towards you and the like.

Don't you feel that ignorance is bliss in this case!

Are Kids A Must For Nuclear Families?

From the good old days of joint families we have come to an era of nuclear families. The numbers (of kids in a nuclear family) is also dwindling rapidly due to economic and personal reasons. And then you have single parenting as a corollary to nuclear family concept. The question now is whether to have children or not in a nuclear family.

Couples discuss the hot topic 'kids' even at the time of dating so that there is no disappointment or surprise once they begin the journey as man & wife.

The new mantra DINKS (Double Parents & No Kids) is catching up fast now. Both the partners are educated & empowered professionals aspiring to lead a luxurious life with least encumbrances.

Child bearing and rearing is stressful and difficult for the modern woman who is not only a home maker but also a bread winner in the family. Furthermore the process is quite expensive. Time is dear and spouses like to utilize the same for their career growth. As a consequence the children are brought up by maid servants. Even if the couple get free time they tend to use it for travel, hobbies and bonding. The equation between the couple changes drastically due to demands and needs of children. There is a feeling amongst the partners that their personal relationship is jeopardized by the arrival of kids.

The other side of the issue is interesting. Husband or wife become more self-centered and highly individualistic. Personal needs override other priorities. Personal relationship does not evolve as the partners do not move to the next level of their love life - parenthood. Kids play a neutral role at times of crisis in the family. They also help parents to look beyond themselves.

There is no formula solution for this problem. Situation for each couple is unique and they have to take decision befitting their commitments and goals in life.

Despite all odds in this issue,the experience of majority of the people around the world is that you really miss something if you do not have children!

5 Amazing Tips To Rejuvenate Your Love Life!

When did you spend time holidaying with your spouse last?
Have you observed that you are unable to pay attention to the personal needs of your partner due to demanding professional life?
Do you feel a crack has developed in your relationship with your sweetheart?
Yes, these are symptoms warning you ahead about your deteriorating relationship with your soul mate. You have to take immediate action for damage control.

Try these 5 simple but effective techniques to rejuvenate your love life.

Keep aside sometime in a day or a week exclusively for both of you without the interference of anyone else including your kids.

Both of you go to gym and workout together everyday.

Plan a vacation just for the two of you every year. Spend your time discussing and solving personal problems and shortcomings.

Even at home set your bedroom with the right ambiance for romancing once in a week. With your mellifluous voice, gentle whispers, graceful movements, favorite dishes you can bring back the pleasant memories of the good old dating days. Try to reminisce your dating dialogues and promises and wishlists. There is no hard and fast rules and use your prior experience and imagination.

Get into small intimate acts like dressing up each other. Gentle rubbing of unmasked limbs, bushy eyebrow, caressing the limbs mutually electrifies the situation and provide a soothing effect to the love lorn partner.

With above tricks you are bound to hit the bulls eye and race back to your lost love life!

Chocolates Enhance Your Sexual Drive!

Love may be spontaneous and natural and it overflows automatically when true lovers bond. In the Victorian age music was considered as the food of love. In the modern times there are several food items which put you into romantic mood. There are certain concoctions known for their enhancement of sex drive and libido. These are no love potions and are part of our day-to-day easy to make food items. Let us have a look at these wonder items.

Honey is the natural form of sugar and is considered as the ideal food for all energy required for those extended hours of bonding. Newly weds in Europe are given plenty of honey during the first month of married life to improve their performance in the bed.

Oyster is a seafood which contains dopamine that enhances the sexual desire in a person. It helps to increase the production of testosterone to heighten sexual pleasure.

Strawberries is considered as an aphrodisiac. It is served in France to newlyweds to improve romance. With delicious whipped cream it is an ideal love food.

Bananas are helpful in revving up the male performance.

Alcohol - Red wine increases the testosterone level in women and create the right mood in them for a successful sex life. Champagne also has the same effect as that of Red wine.

Dark Chocolates contains antioxidant to improve blood flow. It is said that Casanova used to seduce girls after eating a tin of chocolates.

Spices like ginger, garlic, saffron, cardamom, etc., are lavishly used to induce the desire for the amorous act.

Guys and gals, these are valuable tips to set you and your date into the right mood for a great weekend. Enjoy your sex life with these rare delicacies.

"The Wife Is For Sex", Do You Agree With This Statement?

Recently I read about an interesting conflict encountered by young couples in Couplesspark website. A young man has complained that he would like have sex 3/4 times a day whereas his mate refuses to have sex as she does not like it. The guy's contention is that they are married couple and the 'the wife is there for sex' as per the Bible. The wife on her part says "I just don’t feel good about myself, he should understand I don’t want to have sex". How do you handle the situation as a counselor?

Sex is part of the marriage package and it has to be enjoyed with mutual consent among the spouses. It is also a means for procreation, may it be in the ethical sense or by biological sciences. The underlying fact is marital harmony and conjugal bond between man and woman. The guy has to have a frank discussion with the girl and convince her about the necessity of acts like sex to express marital love and affection. It is not just a beastly act of erotica to quench biological needs. It is a deed to improve the relationship and intimacy between the partners so that mutual trust blossoms between them. The woman on her part should realize the need to keep her husband happy in all fronts including his sexual needs. Otherwise he may go astray and look around for extramarital affairs which is detrimental for the marital health.

Folks, sex is also of paramount importance in building up relationship. The husband cannot claim sex as a matter of legal right while the woman cannot express her inability to participate in that amorous act. If she has problems, both the spouses should seek guidance from psychiatrists for remedial measure.

You can definitely develop a strong marriage bond with the right attitude for mutual benefit. Good luck!

Check Up Whether Your Date Loves Animals And Wear Animal Hats To Win Her Heart!

Love may not be blind, it is born with certain common feelings between the dates. Soemtime the common feelings or issues may be very silly too. However that silly thing may give rise to the fountain of love between the lovers.

Have you heard of such a common issue between these two lovers - it is love for animals and a sense of protection and welfare of animals. Dates kiss amorously wearing their favorite animal hats to express their love for the animals as well as for the other date. Here is an amazing snapshot of an affectionate couple, dressed as a tiger and a panda, showing their passion for the animals with the symbolic locked lips in Kiev, Ukraine.

Guys, Respect Your Date! Her Brain Is Wired To Tackle Intellectual Issues As Competent As You Are!

There is an age old belief that the brain structure of the women is different from that of men. The brain of the man is wired to be analytical about everything whereas that of the woman is wired to be empathetic. This gives a general feeling that men are guided by intellect whereas women are influenced by emotion. This belief has been emphasized in all our stories from time immemorial in our lives throughout the world irrespective of the nationality, age, society and cultural background. Even the recent best seller 'The Female Brain' by Louann Brizendine, an American scholar, subscribes to the view that women spend most of their life on "psychological roller coaster" controlled by hormone levels.

Gina Rippon, Professor of cognitive neuro-imaging at Aston University, has accused her fellow researchers and other contemporaries of providing scientific evidence to establish the age old theory that women are not at par with men on intellectual ground. According to her it is utter nonsense to believe that women are different than men on their brain activities based on their social role and status. The similarities of brain functions of men and women are far greater than the difference. It is a myth to conclude that there is a disparity between the sexes on brain functionality.

Guys, this is an important input to you when you handle your girl. Don't be carried away that she is a dud intellectually and you can cover her on emotional grounds. You are bound to fail. Your date is as intellectual as you are and share with her all your intellectual problems to hit the right solution.

Watch Out, Lipgloss Reflects Mood of Your Date!

Have you ever felt the urge to have sex with your date? Of course, this happens at an advanced stage after long courtship and development of mutual trust between the partners.

Menfolks, here is a sexy news for you, a new lipstick is available in the market which shows when women are in the mood for sex. Created by a Californian company, this mood swing emotionally activated lip gloss works by reacting with a girl's body chemistry. The glass changes from clear to deep crimson as the wearer gets frisky. This special product is priced at 12 pounds; the tube displays a color chart for men to work out how randy their partner feels.

Users of this gloss include celebrities like Katy Perry.

Keep your date happy by finding her moods and act as appropriate! Have a great weekend!

Women Are Attracted By Energetic Wild Dance Of The Dates!

Girls like dates who articulate and swing wildly in the dance floor!

In an interesting study conducted by German University of Gottingen and Britain's Northumbria University, 19 young men, in the age group 18-35 years, were made to dance with basic rhythm and their movements were photographed with a 3-D camera. The dance movements were then mapped onto a featureless white gender-neutral humanoid characters or avatars. A group of 37 heterosexual women were invited to rate the dance performance. Majority of the women were attracted to the large and varied movements of avatars involving neck and trunk movements and fast movement of the right knee.

This study shows women adore guys who dance with high energy with twists and turns of their body. In effect the dance reflects the joy of the guy on the dance floor. In a way this reflects the dashing nature of the guy which mesmerizes the heart of the female folk.

Guys, this is a very important clue you need to follow when you date. You have to exercise and practice fast rhythm at least on weekends to win over your date.

Dance and exercise keep you fit and young and girls make a beeline for you!

Teenagers Should Know Their Limits In Dating And Should Not Indulge In Sex!

Dating started as a social practice with Christian society; today it has become a way of life with other communities also world over. It is extremely popular with teenage boys and girls, either in their schooling or in college life. Dating is a healthy social activity wherein a beautiful friendship results between classmates and colleagues while studying. You get an opportunity to make friendship with a girl or boy to share your thoughts and extend a helping hand to solve each others problems, academic as well as personal.

There is a tendency to get infatuated with your date based on the physical attraction in this impressionable age. This also leads to sexual advances and deep relationships. Sex amongst teens is totally undesirable and harmful for their development and to the society in the larger perspective. It spoils the entire life of the budding architects, scientists or doctors; You lose your studies in addition to your precious health. There is the moral degradation if you believe in religion. No religion preaches in favor of sex before marriage that too at teenage.

Students should learn to confine their dating to healthy friendship without extending it to wrong relationship. Parents and elders should also help teenagers to take the righteous path in their life.

Divorce Is Not A Bad Word!

When you talk of relationship, divorce may be an anti-climax; but still it is a reality and we have to accept it in our life and society. If the partners find themselves incompatible in respect of life style, ideologies, work culture, past love affairs, sharing of responsibilities, individual differences in tastes, etc., it is impossible to maintain relationship and live as husband and wife. You cannot live under a common roof and quarrel for any issue. The relationship gets worse day by day.

Children who are exposed to frequent parental fights get frustrated and dejected, sometime more than the parents. They do not like to get back home from school as they feel the home atmosphere hostile. They grow devoid of love and affection from parents. Under these circumstances divorce or living in separation is the only solution to maintain harmony between individual parents and the kids. Children may miss either of the parents, that is all. On the other hand, they develop strong personality with high degree of independence. Life becomes lot more peaceful though one parent will be missing. In fact they learn to live with attachment not only with both parents but also with step brothers and sisters.

Looked from this angle it is evident that "divorce" is not a bad word if the marriage does not work!

If You Are Serious About Your Relationship You Can Date Chinese Girls!

China is one of the most populous countries in the world contributing 12% of the world's population. Both men and women get professionally qualified and live in countries all over the world. Their restaurants are prominent in any part of the world. By and large Chinese girls are traditional, beautiful and homely. Parents keep a watch on adult girls and their friends. Girls maintain friendship with close relatives and family friends only.

Unless it is a serous relationship other boys are not allowed to befriend the girls. Foreigners do entice local girls for fun and pleasure. They are running a high degree of risk; more often the elders of the family of the girls settle the score with grave consequences; girls are also put to torments. Therefore as a foreigner if you want to date a Chinese girl be clear in your mind to marry her after considering the pros and cons. Girls are smart, home loving and bond with boyfriend with immense faith and affection.

There are a number of websites which do a great dating service to connect Chinese girls with Chinese boys as well as men of other countries like USA, UK, Germany, Singapore, etc. Important among the websites are Chinesekisses.com, DatingChinese.com, Chineselovelinks.com, MeetChinesegirls.com

Try these websites and pick up your soul mate!