What would the world be like without us!

The world is a beautiful place to live with the abundant resources endowed by Mother Nature - the mighty oceans, long rivers, lush green meadows, dense forests, multiple minerals, and many more.  Mankind has unraveled the mysteries of Nature with the help of science and technology and created marvels like the spaceship, computers, mobile phones and the Internet of the modern era.  The overall health, standard of living and lifespan of the humans keeps touching highs.  In addition spiritualism, righteousness, honesty and altruism characterize the people of the earth in their march towards bringing the entire world under one umbrella irrespective of the different barriers like language, geography, economy, race, etc. 

What would the world be like without us?  The world shines because of the people living in it.  Without you and me the earth will be a barren planet.  Yes, we give life and harmony to Mother Nature!   

Sexual Aversion Is A Killer Disorder Between Partners, Take Guard!

Sexual intercourse is one of the important ingredients of love life between partners in a dating situation or after marriage.

Sometimes one of the spouses may dislike sexual contact owing to the following reasons.
• Loss of desire during menopause and after the birth of a child
• Domestic worries and difficulties in upbringing children
• Loss of dear ones

The loss of sexual interest on account of the above causes is normal and temporary. As against this Sexual Aversion is a more serious disorder which will lead to breaking of relationship if left unattended.

The symptoms of sexual aversion can be listed as under.
• Traumatic experiences like rape, incest, molestation or other forms of abuse
• Firewall of negative attitude and built-in fear preventing sexual pleasure
• Physical pain during and after intercourse
• Lack of knowledge on human sexual anatomy
• Hatred towards partner

As a consequence partners suffering from sexual aversion would prefer to live in isolation, feel socially insecure and depressed. Unfulfilled sexual desires, lack of ability to attain climax and frustration are the outcome of relationship between such partners.

What are the remedial measures to correct this cruel disorder?
Counseling by expert psychiatrists, cognitive behavioral therapy, effective communication training, resolving differences on the basis of empathy and mutual trust, etc., are some of the super techniques to overcome sexual aversion between partners.

Folks, take guard against sexual aversion while you date.

Courtesy: Times of India

Ignorance Is Bliss Under Certain Circumstances In Building Up Relationship!

The common belief that you should know everything about your date before entering into a relationship is a myth. Swiss psychologists are of opinion that not knowing and liking the partner is a better than knowing and not liking the partner.

Don't try to explore his personal habits, friends circle, past affairs and failures which do not have any impact on your present relationship. Accept him as he is at the face value without probing into unrelated aspects like whether he smokes,drinks, flirts with his personal assistant at office, etc. Certain times brutal honesty really kills the live-in relationship.

In the modern era, a practical working relationship, marriage-without-being-married, is catching up fast amongst the young couples. No doubt he is not just a roommate but a soul-mate. What is more relevant is your partner's likes and dislikes, personality traits, attitude towards you and the like.

Don't you feel that ignorance is bliss in this case!

Are Kids A Must For Nuclear Families?

From the good old days of joint families we have come to an era of nuclear families. The numbers (of kids in a nuclear family) is also dwindling rapidly due to economic and personal reasons. And then you have single parenting as a corollary to nuclear family concept. The question now is whether to have children or not in a nuclear family.

Couples discuss the hot topic 'kids' even at the time of dating so that there is no disappointment or surprise once they begin the journey as man & wife.

The new mantra DINKS (Double Parents & No Kids) is catching up fast now. Both the partners are educated & empowered professionals aspiring to lead a luxurious life with least encumbrances.

Child bearing and rearing is stressful and difficult for the modern woman who is not only a home maker but also a bread winner in the family. Furthermore the process is quite expensive. Time is dear and spouses like to utilize the same for their career growth. As a consequence the children are brought up by maid servants. Even if the couple get free time they tend to use it for travel, hobbies and bonding. The equation between the couple changes drastically due to demands and needs of children. There is a feeling amongst the partners that their personal relationship is jeopardized by the arrival of kids.

The other side of the issue is interesting. Husband or wife become more self-centered and highly individualistic. Personal needs override other priorities. Personal relationship does not evolve as the partners do not move to the next level of their love life - parenthood. Kids play a neutral role at times of crisis in the family. They also help parents to look beyond themselves.

There is no formula solution for this problem. Situation for each couple is unique and they have to take decision befitting their commitments and goals in life.

Despite all odds in this issue,the experience of majority of the people around the world is that you really miss something if you do not have children!

"The Wife Is For Sex", Do You Agree With This Statement?

Recently I read about an interesting conflict encountered by young couples in Couplesspark website. A young man has complained that he would like have sex 3/4 times a day whereas his mate refuses to have sex as she does not like it. The guy's contention is that they are married couple and the 'the wife is there for sex' as per the Bible. The wife on her part says "I just don’t feel good about myself, he should understand I don’t want to have sex". How do you handle the situation as a counselor?

Sex is part of the marriage package and it has to be enjoyed with mutual consent among the spouses. It is also a means for procreation, may it be in the ethical sense or by biological sciences. The underlying fact is marital harmony and conjugal bond between man and woman. The guy has to have a frank discussion with the girl and convince her about the necessity of acts like sex to express marital love and affection. It is not just a beastly act of erotica to quench biological needs. It is a deed to improve the relationship and intimacy between the partners so that mutual trust blossoms between them. The woman on her part should realize the need to keep her husband happy in all fronts including his sexual needs. Otherwise he may go astray and look around for extramarital affairs which is detrimental for the marital health.

Folks, sex is also of paramount importance in building up relationship. The husband cannot claim sex as a matter of legal right while the woman cannot express her inability to participate in that amorous act. If she has problems, both the spouses should seek guidance from psychiatrists for remedial measure.

You can definitely develop a strong marriage bond with the right attitude for mutual benefit. Good luck!

Check Up Whether Your Date Loves Animals And Wear Animal Hats To Win Her Heart!

Love may not be blind, it is born with certain common feelings between the dates. Soemtime the common feelings or issues may be very silly too. However that silly thing may give rise to the fountain of love between the lovers.

Have you heard of such a common issue between these two lovers - it is love for animals and a sense of protection and welfare of animals. Dates kiss amorously wearing their favorite animal hats to express their love for the animals as well as for the other date. Here is an amazing snapshot of an affectionate couple, dressed as a tiger and a panda, showing their passion for the animals with the symbolic locked lips in Kiev, Ukraine.

Women Are Attracted By Energetic Wild Dance Of The Dates!

Girls like dates who articulate and swing wildly in the dance floor!

In an interesting study conducted by German University of Gottingen and Britain's Northumbria University, 19 young men, in the age group 18-35 years, were made to dance with basic rhythm and their movements were photographed with a 3-D camera. The dance movements were then mapped onto a featureless white gender-neutral humanoid characters or avatars. A group of 37 heterosexual women were invited to rate the dance performance. Majority of the women were attracted to the large and varied movements of avatars involving neck and trunk movements and fast movement of the right knee.

This study shows women adore guys who dance with high energy with twists and turns of their body. In effect the dance reflects the joy of the guy on the dance floor. In a way this reflects the dashing nature of the guy which mesmerizes the heart of the female folk.

Guys, this is a very important clue you need to follow when you date. You have to exercise and practice fast rhythm at least on weekends to win over your date.

Dance and exercise keep you fit and young and girls make a beeline for you!

Teenagers Should Know Their Limits In Dating And Should Not Indulge In Sex!

Dating started as a social practice with Christian society; today it has become a way of life with other communities also world over. It is extremely popular with teenage boys and girls, either in their schooling or in college life. Dating is a healthy social activity wherein a beautiful friendship results between classmates and colleagues while studying. You get an opportunity to make friendship with a girl or boy to share your thoughts and extend a helping hand to solve each others problems, academic as well as personal.

There is a tendency to get infatuated with your date based on the physical attraction in this impressionable age. This also leads to sexual advances and deep relationships. Sex amongst teens is totally undesirable and harmful for their development and to the society in the larger perspective. It spoils the entire life of the budding architects, scientists or doctors; You lose your studies in addition to your precious health. There is the moral degradation if you believe in religion. No religion preaches in favor of sex before marriage that too at teenage.

Students should learn to confine their dating to healthy friendship without extending it to wrong relationship. Parents and elders should also help teenagers to take the righteous path in their life.