Sexual Aversion Is A Killer Disorder Between Partners, Take Guard!

Sexual intercourse is one of the important ingredients of love life between partners in a dating situation or after marriage.

Sometimes one of the spouses may dislike sexual contact owing to the following reasons.
• Loss of desire during menopause and after the birth of a child
• Domestic worries and difficulties in upbringing children
• Loss of dear ones

The loss of sexual interest on account of the above causes is normal and temporary. As against this Sexual Aversion is a more serious disorder which will lead to breaking of relationship if left unattended.

The symptoms of sexual aversion can be listed as under.
• Traumatic experiences like rape, incest, molestation or other forms of abuse
• Firewall of negative attitude and built-in fear preventing sexual pleasure
• Physical pain during and after intercourse
• Lack of knowledge on human sexual anatomy
• Hatred towards partner

As a consequence partners suffering from sexual aversion would prefer to live in isolation, feel socially insecure and depressed. Unfulfilled sexual desires, lack of ability to attain climax and frustration are the outcome of relationship between such partners.

What are the remedial measures to correct this cruel disorder?
Counseling by expert psychiatrists, cognitive behavioral therapy, effective communication training, resolving differences on the basis of empathy and mutual trust, etc., are some of the super techniques to overcome sexual aversion between partners.

Folks, take guard against sexual aversion while you date.

Courtesy: Times of India

"The Wife Is For Sex", Do You Agree With This Statement?

Recently I read about an interesting conflict encountered by young couples in Couplesspark website. A young man has complained that he would like have sex 3/4 times a day whereas his mate refuses to have sex as she does not like it. The guy's contention is that they are married couple and the 'the wife is there for sex' as per the Bible. The wife on her part says "I just don’t feel good about myself, he should understand I don’t want to have sex". How do you handle the situation as a counselor?

Sex is part of the marriage package and it has to be enjoyed with mutual consent among the spouses. It is also a means for procreation, may it be in the ethical sense or by biological sciences. The underlying fact is marital harmony and conjugal bond between man and woman. The guy has to have a frank discussion with the girl and convince her about the necessity of acts like sex to express marital love and affection. It is not just a beastly act of erotica to quench biological needs. It is a deed to improve the relationship and intimacy between the partners so that mutual trust blossoms between them. The woman on her part should realize the need to keep her husband happy in all fronts including his sexual needs. Otherwise he may go astray and look around for extramarital affairs which is detrimental for the marital health.

Folks, sex is also of paramount importance in building up relationship. The husband cannot claim sex as a matter of legal right while the woman cannot express her inability to participate in that amorous act. If she has problems, both the spouses should seek guidance from psychiatrists for remedial measure.

You can definitely develop a strong marriage bond with the right attitude for mutual benefit. Good luck!