Ignorance Is Bliss Under Certain Circumstances In Building Up Relationship!

The common belief that you should know everything about your date before entering into a relationship is a myth. Swiss psychologists are of opinion that not knowing and liking the partner is a better than knowing and not liking the partner.

Don't try to explore his personal habits, friends circle, past affairs and failures which do not have any impact on your present relationship. Accept him as he is at the face value without probing into unrelated aspects like whether he smokes,drinks, flirts with his personal assistant at office, etc. Certain times brutal honesty really kills the live-in relationship.

In the modern era, a practical working relationship, marriage-without-being-married, is catching up fast amongst the young couples. No doubt he is not just a roommate but a soul-mate. What is more relevant is your partner's likes and dislikes, personality traits, attitude towards you and the like.

Don't you feel that ignorance is bliss in this case!

Are Kids A Must For Nuclear Families?

From the good old days of joint families we have come to an era of nuclear families. The numbers (of kids in a nuclear family) is also dwindling rapidly due to economic and personal reasons. And then you have single parenting as a corollary to nuclear family concept. The question now is whether to have children or not in a nuclear family.

Couples discuss the hot topic 'kids' even at the time of dating so that there is no disappointment or surprise once they begin the journey as man & wife.

The new mantra DINKS (Double Parents & No Kids) is catching up fast now. Both the partners are educated & empowered professionals aspiring to lead a luxurious life with least encumbrances.

Child bearing and rearing is stressful and difficult for the modern woman who is not only a home maker but also a bread winner in the family. Furthermore the process is quite expensive. Time is dear and spouses like to utilize the same for their career growth. As a consequence the children are brought up by maid servants. Even if the couple get free time they tend to use it for travel, hobbies and bonding. The equation between the couple changes drastically due to demands and needs of children. There is a feeling amongst the partners that their personal relationship is jeopardized by the arrival of kids.

The other side of the issue is interesting. Husband or wife become more self-centered and highly individualistic. Personal needs override other priorities. Personal relationship does not evolve as the partners do not move to the next level of their love life - parenthood. Kids play a neutral role at times of crisis in the family. They also help parents to look beyond themselves.

There is no formula solution for this problem. Situation for each couple is unique and they have to take decision befitting their commitments and goals in life.

Despite all odds in this issue,the experience of majority of the people around the world is that you really miss something if you do not have children!

5 Amazing Tips To Rejuvenate Your Love Life!

When did you spend time holidaying with your spouse last?
Have you observed that you are unable to pay attention to the personal needs of your partner due to demanding professional life?
Do you feel a crack has developed in your relationship with your sweetheart?
Yes, these are symptoms warning you ahead about your deteriorating relationship with your soul mate. You have to take immediate action for damage control.

Try these 5 simple but effective techniques to rejuvenate your love life.

Keep aside sometime in a day or a week exclusively for both of you without the interference of anyone else including your kids.

Both of you go to gym and workout together everyday.

Plan a vacation just for the two of you every year. Spend your time discussing and solving personal problems and shortcomings.

Even at home set your bedroom with the right ambiance for romancing once in a week. With your mellifluous voice, gentle whispers, graceful movements, favorite dishes you can bring back the pleasant memories of the good old dating days. Try to reminisce your dating dialogues and promises and wishlists. There is no hard and fast rules and use your prior experience and imagination.

Get into small intimate acts like dressing up each other. Gentle rubbing of unmasked limbs, bushy eyebrow, caressing the limbs mutually electrifies the situation and provide a soothing effect to the love lorn partner.

With above tricks you are bound to hit the bulls eye and race back to your lost love life!

"The Wife Is For Sex", Do You Agree With This Statement?

Recently I read about an interesting conflict encountered by young couples in Couplesspark website. A young man has complained that he would like have sex 3/4 times a day whereas his mate refuses to have sex as she does not like it. The guy's contention is that they are married couple and the 'the wife is there for sex' as per the Bible. The wife on her part says "I just don’t feel good about myself, he should understand I don’t want to have sex". How do you handle the situation as a counselor?

Sex is part of the marriage package and it has to be enjoyed with mutual consent among the spouses. It is also a means for procreation, may it be in the ethical sense or by biological sciences. The underlying fact is marital harmony and conjugal bond between man and woman. The guy has to have a frank discussion with the girl and convince her about the necessity of acts like sex to express marital love and affection. It is not just a beastly act of erotica to quench biological needs. It is a deed to improve the relationship and intimacy between the partners so that mutual trust blossoms between them. The woman on her part should realize the need to keep her husband happy in all fronts including his sexual needs. Otherwise he may go astray and look around for extramarital affairs which is detrimental for the marital health.

Folks, sex is also of paramount importance in building up relationship. The husband cannot claim sex as a matter of legal right while the woman cannot express her inability to participate in that amorous act. If she has problems, both the spouses should seek guidance from psychiatrists for remedial measure.

You can definitely develop a strong marriage bond with the right attitude for mutual benefit. Good luck!

Guys, Respect Your Date! Her Brain Is Wired To Tackle Intellectual Issues As Competent As You Are!

There is an age old belief that the brain structure of the women is different from that of men. The brain of the man is wired to be analytical about everything whereas that of the woman is wired to be empathetic. This gives a general feeling that men are guided by intellect whereas women are influenced by emotion. This belief has been emphasized in all our stories from time immemorial in our lives throughout the world irrespective of the nationality, age, society and cultural background. Even the recent best seller 'The Female Brain' by Louann Brizendine, an American scholar, subscribes to the view that women spend most of their life on "psychological roller coaster" controlled by hormone levels.

Gina Rippon, Professor of cognitive neuro-imaging at Aston University, has accused her fellow researchers and other contemporaries of providing scientific evidence to establish the age old theory that women are not at par with men on intellectual ground. According to her it is utter nonsense to believe that women are different than men on their brain activities based on their social role and status. The similarities of brain functions of men and women are far greater than the difference. It is a myth to conclude that there is a disparity between the sexes on brain functionality.

Guys, this is an important input to you when you handle your girl. Don't be carried away that she is a dud intellectually and you can cover her on emotional grounds. You are bound to fail. Your date is as intellectual as you are and share with her all your intellectual problems to hit the right solution.

Divorce Is Not A Bad Word!

When you talk of relationship, divorce may be an anti-climax; but still it is a reality and we have to accept it in our life and society. If the partners find themselves incompatible in respect of life style, ideologies, work culture, past love affairs, sharing of responsibilities, individual differences in tastes, etc., it is impossible to maintain relationship and live as husband and wife. You cannot live under a common roof and quarrel for any issue. The relationship gets worse day by day.

Children who are exposed to frequent parental fights get frustrated and dejected, sometime more than the parents. They do not like to get back home from school as they feel the home atmosphere hostile. They grow devoid of love and affection from parents. Under these circumstances divorce or living in separation is the only solution to maintain harmony between individual parents and the kids. Children may miss either of the parents, that is all. On the other hand, they develop strong personality with high degree of independence. Life becomes lot more peaceful though one parent will be missing. In fact they learn to live with attachment not only with both parents but also with step brothers and sisters.

Looked from this angle it is evident that "divorce" is not a bad word if the marriage does not work!